It’s that time of year when many people are busy looking for the perfect gift for everyone on their list. You search Amazon, read the reviews, press the button to order, and two days later, there is box with a smile on your doorstep. Mission accomplished.
While physical gifts can be nice, the gift of encouragement can be enjoyed long after the holiday decorations are packed away in the closet. The gift of encouragement can motivate people to take bigger risks and share their talents with the world, and it is as easy as ordering on Amazon.
Opening the Gift of Encouragement
I recently felt the joy as a recipient of the gift of encouragement through a podcasting workshop I joined. Expressing myself through my physical voice and dealing with technical editing programs was something that was going to be a stretch for me, but I knew I needed a new challenge. I quickly entered my credit card information before I changed my mind.
After a few weeks of lessons and giving it a try, I realized how many things could go wrong with a podcast. I couldn’t believe my voice recording was too loud. In real life, I have been referred to as the low talker from Seinfeld, so that problem came as a shocker. I kept saying “and” as a filler, and sometimes I was not enunciating words enough.
When it came to editing, I struggled with the tools used to adjust my volume and spent hours trying to figure out how to convert file types. Trying to make all of these improvements and learning all of the steps to producing a successful podcast was starting to feel overwhelming, and I contemplated giving up.
Rather than give up, I decided to share my challenges with my classmates in the workshop. What I found was an amazing community of support. My classmates took the time to point out what I was doing well and reminded me that perfection was not the goal. Receiving their continual support and encouragement pushed me to continue on the podcasting path, and it reminded me why I was taking the class.
When I reflected on this experience, it made me realize how much power we have to assist others who may be struggling. Our words and actions have power. I think this is even more important when someone is new at something or sharing their talents for the first time. Sharing some words of encouragement and letting them know at least one thing you really liked about what they did can build confidence and keep people on the path to growth.
Impacting Youth
Another place we can have a big impact is by encouraging youth. I mentor two super awesome teenagers. They both do really well in school, participate in various leadership programs and are kind, good kids. When one of them recently let me know about a scholarship she received, I congratulated her and let her know how proud I was. She said, “I couldn’t have done it without you.”
I instantly thought she was giving me too much credit. I was not the one working hard at school and taking time to put together a scholarship application – it was all her. She could easily do this without me. While this is true, I was also underestimating the power of encouragement and showing others you care about them. It takes courage to submit a scholarship application, knowing you will be competing with students throughout a large metro area.
By participating with her in the workshops and other programs through our mentoring organization, she is learning the skills to gain confidence and set goals for herself. Hearing words of reinforcement from me might also be giving her that boost she needs to remind herself that she is worthy and has everything she needs to succeed.
I was also fortunate to have someone who believed in me when I was young. When I was in high school, I started a school newspaper. For some reason, the principal was not supportive of the newspaper and wouldn’t let me use the school’s copy machine to print them (maybe it was because the school only seemed interested in supporting the football team). My mother saw the passion I had for the school newspaper and believed in me. She would take the newspaper with her to work and walk over to a copy store to have it printed on her lunch break. She continues to support my writing by reading all my blog posts and telling me I should write a book. Hi, mom. Thanks for believing in me!
It would be easy for some people to brush this off and think that moms are supposed to love and support their kids, but I know that is not always the case. Some parents attend their kids’ sporting events and yell at them the entire game, with expectations that their seven-year-old should be playing basketball at the level of Steph Curry. Some of these parents focus all of their efforts on what their children are doing wrong and can easily cause overwhelm and extra stress.
When you are in a learning phase, this can be especially destructive. You’re not going to be perfect right out of the gate. If too much focus is on what is wrong, it can sometimes make you shut down and give up.
I’m not saying constructive feedback and growth shouldn’t be encouraged. It is important to mix the items for improvement with encouragement to create the perfect recipe to keep people moving forward and growing, rather than feeling like they are not good enough and giving up.
How Can We Give This Gift?
If you see someone being brave, say something. You may observe someone’s courage at work, on social media or hear about it from others. Do you reach out to recognize these people for what they are doing and let them know the impact it has on you? It takes just a few moments and can be the thing that propels them to do even more and to understand the difference they are making.
Let’s acknowledge people when they put themselves out there. It is not always easy to have the courage to share our gifts and talents with the world. When you share yourself with others, you know that some people may not particularly like your style, personality or message. That is not a reason to quit.
I will leave you with a video a friend recently shared with me (grab some tissue). Where do you think this woman would be without the combination of her own passion and the encouragement from her parents?